If you already began the divorce process, you are probably wondering if it is acceptable to start dating again. After all, you are likely leading separate lives at this point and it seems unreasonable to have to put your life on hold. If you have children or were married for a particularly long time, however, this not is an ideal situation for reentering the dating scene. Your children need your help to cope with the coming changes and you need time to heal and evaluate what changes you might need to make for a future relationship to succeed.
Moreover, dating before your divorce is finalized will probably foster some hard feelings with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, which will not make it easy to achieve a mutually agreeable solution.
Why You Should Hold Off on Dating for the Time Being
Although you are probably ready to have fun and casually date, doing so will only distract you from focusing on what is important. Sure, a new romantic interest can help soothe the pain, but this temporary relief might come at a high cost, particularly if you have children. Keep in mind, learning about your divorce was life-changing news for them and they are likely still struggling with it. Adding an additional element, such as a new partner, will be even more difficult for them to accept and it could potentially harm your relationship with them.
You should also consider your own emotional wellbeing. Ask yourself why you wish to begin dating again. If the answer is to feel less alone or to find solace in a new romance, these are surefire ways to further complicate your life at an already troubling time. It is only natural to want to find ways to quiet the emotions you are feeling, but dating is not the answer and, if you are hoping to find new partner, this will not provide a successful foundation for a relationship.
Lastly, if your spouse is already upset about the divorce, your renewed dating life will not help the situation. A hostile divorce will only cost more time and money, both of which you would probably like to save. More importantly, if you have children, you will want to foster a cooperative co-parenting relationship, which might be hard to do if you date this early on, especially if it causes your spouse to question your fidelity during the marriage.
Take this time for yourself, your children, and focus on ending your marriage as smoothly as possible, so you can have the best possible start on this new chapter in your life.
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